I had an experience a while back that really got me thinking. I won't lie, this took me a bit by surprise and made me even doubt in myself a little. The thing is, I don't even think that this beautiful soul realised the words she spoke and I am certain she didn't realise the effect it had on me BUT once I realised that these were just my fears cropping up, I could then use my techniques to help resolve them within myself.
I then objectively looked at the words and the emotions that were used in this interaction. This is something I discuss with my clients and children all the time, the power of words and thought I would share my insights.
Words are very powerful instruments.
We use them to communicate with others and with ourself.
The words we use are used by the Universe to mould and create awareness and our reality.
Stop and think about that for a moment......your words create and mould your reality. That's powerful stuff man!
Words are agreements.
Words are used to express ideas or feelings.
Words have the power to encourage and the power to destroy.
The meaning of words is not absolute and is always open to personal interpretation and to the interpretation or perception of the human consciousness. With this in mind, I tend to carefully choose my words when speaking with someone whether it be a friend, my children, my partner or a client. I know that not only my words but also the emotion behind them and the interpretation in the human consciousness can affect how my words are received by another.
You might be thinking, "but their reaction is theirs not mine and I should not have to change who I am and anyway, isn't it all Divine and maybe it is a good thing for their reaction to come up for their own self development?" and to this I say yes, I totally agree with you, that feeling might have to come up to be healed so that that person can learn some self-love BUT I do believe that when you speak with love even if the words are firm, the vibration of love is always felt and I firmly believe that the same holds true if you speak in fear or in anger. When a message is received in fear or anger it can totally derail someone and negatively affect their self-esteem (and this is what happened to me, the vibration of fear was in the words that were spoken to me)
When a message is received in a loving, respectful way it encourages growth and self-realisation.
There is a vast difference between the two and I would like to suggest that the question/s you need to ask yourself are "What do I want to leave the person with?", "Do I want to build them up and inspire them?", or even How can I be of service to this being?" Your words have the ability to take someone on a powerful, transformative healing journey and your words also have the power to affect exactly how someone's journey is experienced.
A point to note is that this goes with self-talk as well. How we speak to ourselves, how we present our wants in this world is also affected by the language we use. You might be thinking I would like a loving relationship where we hold, repect, cherish and nurture each other BUT you might actually be saying out loud, I want a relationship where I am taken care of. Do you see the difference? Being taken care of implies that you either cannot take care of yourself or you are not willing to take responsibility for yourself.
My belief is that we must speak with each other and ourselves in a mindful way; a way that is respectful; a way that is gentle, humble, loving and honest. If we can all be mindful in conversations with each other then we can make this world just that much more beautiful.
With Love and Blessings