Time To Shine

I sat at my computer to update some information on my site and thought to myself, I wonder if I have a blog in me and I have to admit that I really wasn't sure I did but as soon as I thought, I'm not sure I was given was the title......Time To Shine. So here it is.....

What does this meant to me, Time to Shine? Is it time for me to shine? Time for you to shine? Time for us all to shine? When I feel into it, it is all of them! It is simply time for us to stop hiding in the shadows and to open up our heart and our lives to the immense possibilities that lie before us. I do offer a word of caution here though as not all possibilities/opportunities are equal and therefore not all should be taken up as some will be like a test to see exactly where your resolve, trust and faith lie and others will be so sweet and so beautiful that you know from the instant it is uttered to you that you are in 100%  

So how do you know if this possibility that has been presented to you is going to allow you to shine your light in the way that feels aligned and authentic to you? You need to stop and be in the silence and allow your heart to speak to you. Allow it to send you the messages that are authentic to you. Listening to and following your heart will ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS allow you to SHINE!!

 Photo by Brigitte Tohm from Pexels

Photo by Brigitte Tohm from Pexels

Here's a little exercise on how I listen to my heart, even when I am feeling overwhelmed. First of all I talk it out or write it out. I am one of those people who needs to speak or write out all of my feelings on the subject, to let all the "noise" out so that I can sit in silence and connect in with my heart. This doesn't mean that I cannot connect in before I clear the noise but I have found that this is the best way for me to be as clear as possible, as quiet as possible which makes the connection with my heart as loud as possible. When there are still emotions running around, I can only hear little whispers, when I am quiet and still I can hear the roar of my heart, its needs, desires and direction. 

To Connect In With Your Heart

  1. place your hand on your heart and take a few deep, relaxing and cleansing breaths
  2. draw your attention to your heart and feel the love you have for it building
  3. meet your heart, that Divine place within
  4. ask the question you need clarification on eg "Divine Heart of mine, is this opportunity <<Insert opportunity>>> right for me in this moment? Will this opportunity allow my heart to soar and my light to shine? Will it keep me on my path?"
  5. Wait for the answer, it may come as a feeling, as a thought, as a sound, a scent, an animal messenger or you might just know automatically what it is
  6. Once you have received your message always give thanks and send love

I know this might sound a little odd, connecting in with your own heart in this way but this is your Sacred Heart you are connecting into, your Anahata and as such, you therefore need to honour it as the sacred being it is. 

From My Heart to Yours

Deena xXx

When I See You Smile

I woke up this morning with this song in my head, 'When I see You Smile' just those words really and I thought about those words and let them become a part of me.

A smile is such a precious gift that we can give someone, whether it be a stranger or a friend or family member. It lights up another's world just by being a smile. It lights our world up simply by smiling. You cannot deny that a beautiful smile whether from yourself or another makes you feel good inside.

"Every time you smile at someone, it is an action of love, a gift to that person, a beautiful thing" ~ Mother Teresa

 

According to scientist Andrew Newberg, a smile is the “the symbol that was rated with the highest positive emotional content” Now that's pretty cool! 

So here's a bit of science on smiling, it's pretty simple really, when you see someone from the past or something pleasurable, endorphins (happy hormones) are produced and neuronal signals travel from the cortex of your brain to the brainstem (the oldest part of our brains). From there, the cranial muscle carries the signal further towards the smiling muscles in your face. Once the smiling muscles in our face contract, there is a positive feedback loop that goes back to the brain and reinforces our feeling of joy. In other words, smiling stimulates the rewards mechanism in our brain! So when we feel good our brain tells us to smile, then when we smile we tell our brain it is feeling good and the loop repeats itself. 

Smiling reduces stress that your body and mind feel and helps to generate more positive emotions within you. That’s why we often feel happier around children because they smile more. On average, children smile 400 times a day. In contrast to happy adults who smile 40-50 times a day. However, statistically, the average adult only smiles about 20 times in one day. What happened to our 380 other smiles? When and why did we stop smiling so much? When and why did we allow society and conditioning to break us and enrol us into thinking that smiling only 20 times a day is acceptable for our well-being?

When I read this statistic I will admit I got really angry. How in the name of all that is good can we live like this and think it is ok? Yes I know there are stresses in this world and hurts and heartaches and grief and loss and so much to not smile about BUT, and here is my BUT there is so much to smile about as well eg the smile of your children, a beautiful butterfly fluttering past you, the sun shining its warmth on you or the rain nourishing the earth, plants and animals. How about a song that makes you feel good inside or evokes an amazing memory? There is so much smile worthy goodness in this world.............As I look out the window, there is dappled sun coming through the window and blinds and it is making a beautiful pattern on my sofa, this simple thing makes me smile.

So my loves, are you ready to embrace the good and the beauty that is around you? Are you ready to seek it out, find it, feel it and express it and in turn release some happy hormones in your life and possibly in the life of another? Because as we know smiles are contagious! 

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The Power of Words

I had an experience a while back that really got me thinking. I won't lie, this took me a bit by surprise and made me even doubt in myself a little. The thing is, I don't even think that this beautiful soul realised the words she spoke and I am certain she didn't realise the effect it had on me BUT once I realised that these were just my fears cropping up, I could then use my techniques to help resolve them within myself.  

I then objectively looked at the words and the emotions that were used in this interaction. This is something I discuss with my clients and children all the time, the power of words and thought I would share my insights.

Words are very powerful instruments.

We use them to communicate with others and with ourself.

The words we use are used by the Universe to mould and create awareness and our reality. 

Stop and think about that for a moment......your words create and mould your reality. That's powerful stuff man!

Words Create Our Reality

 

Words are agreements.

Words are used to express ideas or feelings.

Words have the power to encourage and the power to destroy.

The meaning of words is not absolute and is always open to personal interpretation and to the interpretation or perception of the human consciousness. With this in mind, I tend to carefully choose my words when speaking with someone whether it be a friend, my children, my partner or a client. I know that not only my words but also the emotion behind them and the interpretation in the human consciousness can affect how my words are received by another.

You might be thinking, "but their reaction is theirs not mine and I should not have to change who I am and anyway, isn't it all Divine and maybe it is a good thing for their reaction to come up for their own self development?" and to this I say yes, I totally agree with you, that feeling might have to come up to be healed so that that person can learn some self-love BUT I do believe that when you speak with love even if the words are firm, the vibration of love is always felt and I firmly believe that the same holds true if you speak in fear or in anger. When a message is received in fear or anger it can totally derail someone and negatively affect their self-esteem (and this is what happened to me, the vibration of fear was in the words that were spoken to me)

BUT

When a message is received in a loving, respectful way it encourages growth and self-realisation.

There is a vast difference between the two and I would like to suggest that the question/s you need to ask yourself are "What do I want to leave the person with?", "Do I want to build them up and inspire them?", or even How can I be of service to this being?" Your words have the ability to take someone on a powerful, transformative healing journey and your words also have the power to affect exactly how someone's journey is experienced. 

Words are singularly the most powerful force available to humanity. We can choose to use this force constructively with words of encouragement, or destructively using words of despair. Words have energy and power with the ability to help, to heal, to hinder, to hurt, to harm, to humiliate and to humble.
— Yehuda Berg

A point to note is that this goes with self-talk as well. How we speak to ourselves, how we present our wants in this world is also affected by the language we use. You might be thinking I would like a loving relationship where we hold, repect, cherish and nurture each other BUT you might actually be saying out loud, I want a relationship where I am taken care of. Do you see the difference? Being taken care of implies that you either cannot take care of yourself or you are not willing to take responsibility for yourself. 

My belief is that we must speak with each other and ourselves in a mindful way; a way that is respectful; a way that is gentle, humble, loving and honest. If we can all be mindful in conversations with each other then we can make this world just that much more beautiful. 

With Love and Blessings

Deena xXx

Morning Musings.............Love is a Battlefield???

I woke up this morning with the song "Love is a Battlefield" in my head and I thought to myself 'is it really?'

You see my husband and I have been going through some challenging times so I understand why this was playing in my head when I woke up but as I walked outside and kissed my cherubs good morning and patted my pup Amber and as I gave and received loved I thought to myself again, "Is it really? Is LOVE really a battlefield because right now, in this moment, it is easy and pure" and as I felt into this I knew I was right; Love is Love; Love is Easy and Pure! 

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So if Love is Love and Easy and Pure, why does it sometimes feel like a battlefield?? the answer came to me and it was so simple, it is our thoughts which create emotions which complicate it and turn it into a battlefield! Simple right?

The trick therefore is to get out of our heads, to release the thoughts and to stop perpetuating the battle. LET IT GO! LET IT GO! LET IT GO! This doesn't mean to roll over and float around with the tide, it means to stand in your power, reclaim it and let go of the negative thoughts that create the negative emotions because when you do this you can feel and see the answers to whatever it is that is weighing on you.

So my loves, clear your head so that you can allow your HEART and your SOUL to speak to you. Quiet your mind and listen to your heart, feel and see what your heart desires and work towards that.

I invite you now to take off your armour

  • Take a deep breath in and on the exhale let it go; let it all out! Let out all of those pre-conceived ideas of what should be. 
  • Take another deep breath in and this time on the exhale let go of the armour that is around your heart, let it melt away, let it burn off, let it explode off, rip it off with your bare hands. It is time my loves to take it off for you are not in a battle.
  • Take one more deep breath in and I want you to feel that air flowing through your being, through your lungs and entering your heart. On the exhale feel your heart fully open and expand while simultaneously releasing any of the last remnants of what is making way for what could be

So much love to you all beautiful Spirit Weavers

Deena xXx

 

Love, Love, Love, Love; Crazy Love!

Love is the most powerful emotion there is but, can you define love? What does love actually mean? The meaning quite possibly changes from person to person and definitely changes from relationship to relationship eg mother to daughter; partner love; sibling; friendships etc.

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The ancient Greeks used 7 words to define the different states of love:

Storge: natural affection, the love you share with your family. 

Storge is the effortless love that parents have for their children.  It is characterised by acceptance, forgiveness, and sacrifice. Through this love, children come to understand comfort, nurturing, security, and safety.

 

Philia: the love that you have for friends.

Philia is connected to companionship, trust, and friendship and most often exists when values are shared and feelings are mutually reciprocated. The Greeks considered Philia to be love among equals. It is free from physical attraction and has more to do with loyalty or a sense of team.

 

Eros: sexual and erotic desire kind of love. 

Eros is sexual desire in its purest form. Eros is both intense, consuming, and yet also quick to fade. Relationships built only on this form of love do not tend to last, which provides immense insight into the many short-lived relationships in our society that glamorises Eros.

 

Agape: this is the unconditional love, or divine love. 

Agape is what we feel for humanity, Mother Earth, and the Divine. We tap into Agape most easily through meditation, time in nature, and following our intuition while walking our spiritual path. Agape is given without expectation of anything in return.  The Greeks considered Agape, the highest form of love. It is bigger than our individual selves, free from desire and expectations, and exists despite shortcomings. It is connected to All That Is. 

 

Ludus: this is playful love, like flirting.

Imagine the early stages of falling in love or the playfulness that exists between new lovers.  It’s characterized by teasing, euphoria, flirting, and butterflies in the stomach. Despite the emphasis on what is new, long-term relationships need Ludus as well. It’s the secret ingredient to keeping love fresh and exciting.

 

Pragma: long standing love. The love in a married couple.

Pragma is love that has had time to age and develop over time. Pragma has transcended the casual and moved beyond the physical. There is an easy harmony and balance. Unlike Storge, Pragma requires effort from both parties. It is the art of learning compromise, developing patience, and being tolerant. It is characterised by duty, respect, admiration, compromise, and working toward common goals.

 

Philautia: the love of the self 

Our sense of belonging and purpose come from Philautia.  It is the self-love and self-worth needed to believe in ourselves so that we can walk our spiritual path. Philautia can be either healthy or unhealthy.  The unhealthy variety is connected to hubris and narcissism. It focuses on fame, wealth, and pleasure.  The healthy form of Philautia teaches us that we must learn to love ourselves first in order to truly love others; nor can we care for each other before we learn to do that for ourselves. The Greeks believed that the only way to true happiness was to learn unconditional love for yourself. It is the most direct way to experience spiritual freedom in this life.

 

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Imagine just for a moment, if we as a society learnt and understood the 7 different types of love or states of love. We learnt how each state of love feels. How beautiful would the world be. When we can be aware of the types of love that exists. How beautiful to be able to define the love we have for someone with one simple word and that person understand exactly what you mean. 

Love is complex but not complicated (we make it complicated); Love is something that we all yearn for, it is what we are made of, it is what we thrive on and it is what we risk a lot for as well. Love is always incredibly juicy, exhilarating and rewarding and within every relationship, within each type of love lies an entire landscape of emotions and feelings and moments for us to savour, learn from and expand our knowledge on the depth of the word LOVE that we as a society so often throw about without really knowing the full impact of the what love actually is and without understanding the type of love that we feel for the other.

So although LOVE is LOVE, within the human word LOVE and within the emotions of LOVE there are many types of LOVE. Defining love and knowing how its different forms interact with each other and manifest in our lives is therefore vital for our development. 

So I ask you today, which types of love do you have in your life? and Do you choose and invite love into your life?

 

Much Love & Blessings

Deena xXx

 

The Magic of Lapis Lazuli

Lapis Lazuli is a truly beautiful stone. Dark blue with flecks of gold pyrite through it and white calcite. Looking at it automatically takes you back to Ancient Egypt, when Pharaohs ruled. In fact, it was used to decorate the Pharaohs and is known as a stone of royalty and spirituality. To this day Lapis Lazuli still carries the vibration of the inner ‘queen’ or ‘king’ that lies dormant within us all.

 Natural Lapis Lazuli on Calcite with some Pyrite

Natural Lapis Lazuli on Calcite with some Pyrite

Lapis Lazuli is best known as a spiritual awakener. It activates the higher mind and psychic abilities. It helps with inner vision and honest, open communication. It helps you journey deep into your being, allowing a Divine connection to self. The pyrite inclusions in lapis lazuli, help you to act upon your highest ideals and visions while the calcite clears the energy systems of the body to allow these higher spiritual energies to integrate with your soul. A match made in heaven.

I decided to connect in with the energy for Lapis Lazuli for myself...........

As soon as I hold onto the piece of Lapis Lazuli, I feel my third eye expand, my chest and throat open and tears stream down my face. I notice there is a cool breeze blowing on my face and as I turn, I meet my Higher Self in an open field. We run to each other and touch foreheads and as we do, there is light pulsating as Divine information is exchanged and then everything goes dark. I see a beam of light shining in the distance and go towards it. As I reach closer to the light, I see the light is coming from a keyhole. I go towards it and look in and I see myself….reminding me that I hold the key within me.

For me, Lapis Lazuli is a powerful reminder that we all hold the key to our happiness and our Divine guidance within us……we just have to be willing to look in, accept, love and trust ourselves 

 Lapis Lazuli Freeform

Lapis Lazuli Freeform

I invite you now to connect in with your own piece of Lapis Lazuli or you can use one of the pictures here to connect with. 


Connecting In With Lapis Lazuli

Choose a piece of lapis lazuli and cleanse the crystal. You can use intention, sound, golden light or any other method you would like to use to cleanse the energy of your crystal.

 Lapis Lazuli Tumble

Lapis Lazuli Tumble

Now that your crystal is cleansed, hold it to your heart and breathe love into your crystal. Now hold the crystal to your third eye and focus on the intention of connecting in with the crystal while it is there on your third eye. Now place the crystal on whichever part of your body feels right and breathe in the energy of the crystal. Let its energy infuse with that of yours and allow your third eye and intuition open to the message your piece of lapis lazuli has for you. Once you have received the wisdom and healing from your crystal, thank it and honour it by sending love to it.

I would suggest you record any insights and messages you received during your meditation. 

Much Love & Blessings

Deena xXX

When Tears Are All There Is

Let's be honest, sometimes life is tough. It can sometimes feel like life has taken you by the hands and then face planted you in the dirt. You are left dazed and confused and most often scared and then the tears start to flow as you try to make sense of everything that has just happened. 

Today I am here to tell you to let those tears fall. Let them fall and fall until there are no more. Allow yourself this most sacred space so that you can heal. I have found more often than not, that in these times, tears are a vital step towards healing. There is sacredness in tears and they help to cleanse the soul in the same way a rainstorm helps to cleanse Mother Earth. They help to relieve stress, anxiety, sadness and grief. In other words, they remove the debris; the tangible, forceful emotions that have pooled within so that they can be released and we can find some peace and emotional relief. They help us to think clearly once they have passed so that understanding can occur. 

The cure for anything is salt water: sweat, tears or the sea
— Isak Dinesen

Dr William Frey, a Biochemist and “tear expert” at the Ramsey Medical Center in Minneapolis discovered that emotional tears have special health benefits, they contain everything a normal reflex tear (98% water) does but they also contain a stress hormone which through crying gets released from the body. This explains why tears help us to feel better as they are literally removing the built up stress hormone from our bodies. It has also been noted that tears stimulate the production of endorphins, the "feel good" hormone in our body. 

No wonder why having a good cry makes us feel better!

Tears Are Healing

So the next time you feel overwhelmed and as if you need a good cry, remember this,

TEARS ARE HEALING

Allow yourself the freedom to sink into those emotions and cry those healing, cleansing tears out. 

All My Love & Blessings

Deena xXx

YOU ARE A DIVINE BEING

 Artist: psychedelicstuff

Artist: psychedelicstuff

I woke up this morning with the absolute knowing that I AM A DIVINE BEING! Yes I know this and am aware of this but this morning it permeated through another level of consciousness within me and I was so acutely and beautifully and lusciously aware of this truth.

So my loves let's do a little exercise together. I want you to stand up and look at yourself in a mirror and repeat these words:

I AM A DIVINE BEING

Say these words as you look in your eyes. Say these words and feel the light within you start to sparkle and shine

I AM A DIVINE BEING

Say it out loud and declare it to the heavens and to the earth! Declare it to yourself! Declare it to the Universe!!

I AM A DIVINE BEING

Feel your cells activate with this truth. Feel the warmth and knowing of this truth radiate through your body. Feel your magnificence and just luxuriate in this for a couple of minutes. Let yourself be embraced by this knowing. Feel your heart open and expand as you align with this truth and declare

"I AM A DIVINE BEING. I AM IN FLOW WITH THE UNIVERSE. I AM AT PEACE WITH MY TRUTH AND MY LIGHT SHINES TRUE"

When the Gloves Come Off

What do you do when the gloves come off? When there is nothing else to face but yourself, your shadow, your light, your essence, your Divinity? 

Today is a new moon solar eclipse and yesterday all of my veils dropped away as I swam in the ocean, the hurt, the pain, the fear, the anger, the dark......I was faced staring at my shadow in its totality. I was faced staring down the "ugly" parts of myself I don't always want to see and I realised that yes, although these parts do not always serve my Higher Self, these are all aspects of myself and I also realised that I had a choice to make....

 

I could either choose to leave the gloves on and keep on fighting with myself trying to live up to an idea of what I think I should be

OR

I could choose to take the gloves off, sink into myself and truly embrace all of these aspects including my shadow and learn how to work with them.

 

You see, we all have this choice to make, to either embrace ourselves wholly or run away and hide parts from not only the world but from ourselves as well. BUT the question then arises: When we do this, how are we serving ourselves? How can we really serve anyone and how are we facilitating our ascension?

How can we live in truth if we cannot admit when we are Not being truthful to ourselves? 

I can hear a BUT coming on.........let me explain further........A point to note is that just because you have accepted these aspects of self doesn't mean that you cannot work on forgiveness, on releasing the anger and the pain and fear. These tasks are imperative for our ascension and for our coming back to oneness with self and all.

Taking the gloves off simply means, facing every aspect of yourself, recognising them, acknowledging them, embracing their existence so that we can transmute them into LOVE cause really LOVE is all there is and it is only LOVE that can reunite all aspects.

Are you ready to take those gloves off? Go on I dare you to.......It's really not as scary as you think.

Much Love & Blessings

Deena xXX

My New Program

I am so excited!! I have just launched my new and I might add, my first program ever!! 

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In this program, we will be delving deep into each of our seven major chakra energy points. We will be working together to release old belief systems and vows so we can free ourselves from these outdated patternings and programmes that are usually unconsciously running through us. 

I remember the first time I came across a Sacred Vow, I was a participant in an amazing workshop hosted by Julia Inglis where we created Medicine Dolls. In this workshop, we journeyed back through our lives to a time when we made a sacred vow.

For me, I went back to a particular life when I was chosen to me the medicine woman of our tribe. I remember feeling such excitement over this privilege and I also remember being confused at why my parents looked so sad. I would later learn that they were sad because as much of an honour it was, there were great sacrifices that came with the position; one of them was the sacrifice of family for my healing art.    

I vowed to not have a partner or children and to dedicate my life completely to my work. 

When I realised this everything clicked into place for me. You see in this present life, I was already pursuing my healing path and I had 3 beautiful children BUT I had this internal conflict going on inside of me that I couldn't understand.....I felt like I couldn't have it both. 

Releasing this vow was incredibly transformational for my life, for my family and for pursuing my soul work. 

Ever since this workshop I have been doing research on sacred vows and releasing ones that I have made throughout my lives. I didn't know it then, but that day was really the start of this program as it opened a door for me. 

If you are ready for change, to acknowledge and release these old patterns, programmes, vows and belief systems contact me and let's work together. It would be my privilege to work with you and to gently guide you on this journey back to self.

Much Love

Deena xXx

Ocean Jasper Love

 Ocean Jasper &amp; Black Tourmaline

Ocean Jasper & Black Tourmaline

I wanted to share with you a little something….a little experience I had with a couple of crystals 

I had to go to the shopping centre to get some things and was not really looking forward to it. I tend to get really overwhelmed and irritable in shopping centres. This day, I thought to myself, ‘no way is this going to happen’. I grabbed my hemp necklace and placed an ocean jasper and a piece of black tourmaline in it and said, ‘do your stuff!’. Well, 3 hours later, I still felt upbeat, and full of energy and I didn’t even realise how long we were at the shops for.

Ocean Jasper helps to create feelings of joy and elevates your spirit while helping you to release any negative feelings. Perfect!! A great stone if you need a lift in energy

Black Tourmaline is known for its grounding energies and for helping to transmute any negative energies around you. It also encourages a positive attitude.

The combination of these 2 was just perfect and I still use it today in crowded places!

So why not give it a try if you are going to be out and about in large crowds and find it a ‘wee bit’ overwhelming.

Much Love, Deena xXx

 

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This is exciting! Getting out of my own way and just doing it.....